There is a piece of technology that I think can be very valuable in helping denominational staff nurture the value of peer support in their ministry. Most recent computers have a built in camera but even if yours doesn’t, it only costs under $40 to add a camera to your current computer. If necessary, the board that cares for this staff person can take up a collection but the actual cost should not be a barrier to making use of Skype or some version of video communication.
Once you have the equipment, look across the country (or in some cases internationally) and identify a person that has a similar position to yours. Explore with that person the possibility of entering into a scheduled conference call at least once a month. It needs to be a person who you trust to keep confidences and who trusts you. It also needs to be a person who has some grasp of the nature of your position. That is why it is helpful to find a person with a similar position.
Your agreement is to set aside a time and day for your monthly conversation. The conversation is private so both of you need to plan a physical location that allows for private conversation. You also need to agree to an amount of time that you both will set aside. While there will need to be some chit-chat and catching up each time, you also need to agree that there will be a designated, intentional agenda that you both will follow for the majority of your conversation.
I would suggest it begin with each of you sharing one or more things that are exciting you, at least one frustrating experience, and one challenge that while demanding you find satisfying. Over time you may find a different balance, but the point is that you use a framework that encourages you to engage in serious conversation.
My guess is that you will look forward to these “sacred conversations” and feel nurtured by them.
