The church, like most other professions, is increasingly faced with the complex dynamics of the family in our society. It is not enough to find the person you want and then hire him or her. Whether s/he accepts the offer or not is affected by the spouse’s profession, unique conditions around the children, extended family issues, etc. Why not open that conversation right away and seek good solutions to any issues that might be present.
The salary that is being offered may necessitate the spouse’s also being employed. Even if it doesn’t, many spouses have their own profession and whether and how it can be transferred to the new area is an important factor. The PNC, being familiar with the area, can both do some research and suggest helpful contacts with whom the candidate can talk. If the spouse wishes to work but is not engaged in a specific profession, the PNC can also help research some possibilities for employment. All of this is to honor the reality of family life and work with the candidate to seek healthy solutions.
If there are specific extended family issues, the PNC in conversation with the family may be able to arrive at creative solutions. An aged parent may need to find a retirement home in the area, or the challenge of the family moving to an new area may be lessened by setting up skype conversations, etc. Medical challenges can be handled in a similar manner.
These type of conversations are meant to convey a recognition that the decision to accept a new position involves a complex set of challenges. By opening up such conversations, the PNC is conveying an awareness that they are interested in the whole person and the whole family. It is a healthy way to begin a relationship.
