YOU ARE NOT IN THIS ALONE
As has been mentioned in previous posts, most observers of the health of clergy agree that one of the major challenges confronting clergy is the issue of isolation. Because we are the spiritual leaders of a faith that emphasizes relationships above all else, this may seem ironic. However, as you recognize, the very nature of the pastorate tempts us to the “Lone Ranger” mentality. So I want to remind you that both theologically and psychologically, you are not alone. You are called by God and you are called to community. For Christians, the other clergy are brothers and sisters in Christ. We need to strengthen that set of relationships.
COMMUNITY AMONG CLERGY
It is important for your own health and the health of your ministry, that you find ways to build community with other clergy. They are one of the few people who understand what you are experiencing. I fully understand that not all clergy are enjoyable or even trustworthy as companions. That is why it is all the more important that you seek out clergy with whom you can relate. This is so important that the Board of Pensions of the Presbyterian Church even offers small grants to help support groups in acquiring leadership for such groups. Check it out at www.pensions.org/. If you are not Presbyterian, check out what they do and then inquire of your own denominational hierarchy.
FUN BUILDS COMMUNITY
A good place to begin in finding companionship with other clergy is to seek out those opportunities in which you can have fun together. It can both provide a break from the intensity of the ministry and is often an easier path to building relationships. One of the sad realities of many people’s lives is they have forgotten how to play and just have fun.
You may want to begin by reflecting on what you did as a young person for fun. Look for experiences that you could invite one or even several other clergy to participate in for pure pleasure and companionship. My guess is that an invitation to step aside from ministry for a few hours and have fun with someone would be very welcome.
In the next blog, I’m going to list some ideas that I came up with, but in the meantime, if you were going to share a few hours with a new companion and you wanted them to enjoy it, what would it be?
